how to get whatever you want in life

4 years ago while I was brainwashing myself in order to unlearn toxic thought patterns and behaviours that kept me stuck in life I read about the law of detachment.

This is the exact photo I printed and glued to my wall.

In short, the idea is that in order to get what you want you need to stop chasing it.

Almost like in dating, you don’t want to seem needy for the thing. No matter how much you want it you need to make sure you’re good with or without it.

This took me 3 years to master.
But I think I’ve finally nailed it.

The reason why is because during those 3 years I spent time chasing 1 single outcome. Mastering the skill of writing and making money.

Which as a result, have led me to get nearly everything I want in life.

Except a boyfriend, but my dad told me I was too busy for that so like I blame him.

Anyways…

You can get whatever you want from life not because you learnt how to write or how to make money.

But because you’ve done an incredibly hard thing like learning a brand new skill and monetising it so anything else becomes easy. And you know you can do it all over again.

You just need to master 1 hard thing.
Build ‘unshakable’ self-trust.

Suddenly, it’s been 3 years of this journey and I have the certainty that I belong in every single room I walk into. Because I deserve it.

Weirdly enough the phrase above used to be one of those affirmations I’d say in front of the mirror while crying because my anti-depressants ran out 4 years ago.

Today I made it a reality.

Life rewards action.
Life rewards those who rise above problems.

And if you want to feel like life is conspiring in your favour, you need to conspire in your favour first.

By keeping the promises you made to yourself.

Act like the person who already has what you want.
Work like you don’t have it yet.

Life will shift it’s frame to match your reality you’re creating.

But you need to take the action to get there.

I’m writing this randomly because I noticed that I rarely talk about my mindset.

Just due to the vague nature of it I avoid it as a topic.
But I think it’s a good reminder for anyone who reads these emails and currently feels stuck.

Because that’s how I felt this morning. Like I’d lost it.
Lost the sauce, lost my swag and sparkle.

In a past version of myself I would’ve been stuck overthinking this for days.

Would avoid posting online because I felt like an imposter.
Would not go out because I didn’t feel worthy.

But today I’m detached from the immediate outcome.
And attached to myself. My self-worth.

No one is free of self-doubt. It happens.

But the people at the top just get busy reaching their goals.

And detachment? It’s not about not caring.
It’s about knowing: even if it doesn’t happen, I’ll still win.

That’s it for today.
Hope it helps more than another writing framrwork.

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PS: Lately I’ve realised how extremely detached to things I’ve become.

As someone who was diagnosed with high-performing anxiety, I want to nod to whoever here also has it that it does get better.

Something practical beyond meditation and ‘hard work’ that helps me is this every evening. Changed the game for me.

Was getting crazy anxiety rashes before that

Anxiety sucks so hope this helps anyone.

xxxxx